Coach of Love

Stop Complaining and Start Loving


No-Complaining

Complaining about love, dating and relationships is the single biggest reason for not being successful in love, dating and relationships.  Complaining creates a “not enough” or “not good enough” mentality.  It makes the whole experience feel impossible, distant, frustrating, and disappointing.  Do you want to guarantee MORE “bad” experiences dating?  Just keep complaining.  Complain about the city, the state, the weather, your age, your weight, your money, your past, or your present.  Make everything and everybody else responsible for your experience except yourself and see what keeps happening.  Keep telling your miserable complaining story about your last date or your last ex or your last chance or your last effort to all your friends.  Get them to believe it, sympathize with you over it, and hold a big pity party about it.  Spread it all over Facebook and social media so everyone gets your point and knows how “bad” love is for you.  Keep the drama high around love.  Do this…..and then you’ll definitely set yourself up to repeat the whole pattern the next time, if there is a next time (because you swore the whole thing off, remember? For the umpteenth time!)

If you want a different experience with love, dating and relationships then start creating it right now by changing your story, your words, your thoughts, and your attitude.  Just stop the complaining already and start to speak ONLY about what you want.  ONLY then, will you stand a chance of creating and having a different experience with love.  Get your single guy friends and single girl friends to stop complaining and to start celebrating what they are looking for and wanting to find in a partner.  This is the ONLY way to change things.  The Law of Attraction is a Law and its playing out just the way you think, speak and act about your experiences with love.

Stop complaining!

Stop complaining about the Dating Process.  It’s a numbers game.  It’s a time game.  It’s a human game.  If you don’t like a certain process, by all means, find a process that works for you, and makes you happy, peaceful, and available.  Online dating doesn’t have to be your thing.  Neither does Tinder, Bumble, going to church or going to bars.  Create your own process and love it.  Any low resistant energy, thoughts, words, feelings or stories about how “bad” a particular dating process is creates more of the same low resistant energy within you.  And this low energy sabotages your efforts to find a process that really does work for you.

Stop complaining about a date that didn’t go the way you wanted or expected it to go.  It wasn’t supposed to go any different.  If you keep getting “let down,” stop building your expectations “up.”  Go MEET people before you DATE them. Take the pressure off.  Allow people to be themselves and stop judging your experience with the “last” one as if it was your “last” one.  It was just an experience with one person, nothing more.  It doesn’t “mean” what you think it means about you, men/women, or your last chance at love.  Any low resistant energy, thoughts, words, feelings or stories about how “bad” your last date went creates more of the same low resistant energy within you.  And this low energy sabotages your efforts to date someone different and get a different experience.

Stop complaining about men (or women).  If want a man or woman to love, stop finding fault with this or that about the opposite gender.  Man-hating or woman-hating thoughts, words, feelings or stories make you unavailable to appreciate the very things you claim you are looking for in your partner.  Allow men to be men and women to be women and start to appreciate rather than denigrate.   Any low resistant energy, thoughts, words, feelings or stories about how “bad” or “difficult” men or women are creates more of the same low resistant energy within you.  And this low energy sabotages your efforts to find value and appreciation in yourself and others.

Stop complaining about relationships.  There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship or a perfect person.  Relationships are always a process and a dance and you learn both step by step.  Relationships aren’t “meant” to last forever, unless they do.  Relationships are not “meant” for anything except what you create. They are simply a shared experience between two human beings.  They happen and they unfold.  Hating the “process” or aspects of a relationship (communication, travel, working together, playing together, step-kids, ex-spouses, money, geographical issues, stress, time, etc.) makes you unavailable for a relationship.  Any low resistant energy, thoughts, words, feelings or stories about how you “hate” aspects of relationships and what it takes to make them work creates more of the same low resistant energy within you.  And this low energy sabotages your efforts to be available for a real relationship and a real life with a real person because you are too busy off in a fantasy land where real relationships are never the real thing.

Stop complaining about your ex and your exes.  He or she taught you just what you needed to learn about love and relationships.  Divinely you met and divinely you separated.  Get over it and move on.  Hating your ex and complaining about what he/she did or didn’t do or is still doing is a victimhood mentality and keeps you attached to the old relationship.  Some people broke up or got divorced years ago, but by the way they tell their stories and complain about their ex, you would swear they are still together or married.  And they still are energetically speaking.  Any low resistant energy, thoughts, words, feelings or stories about how you “hate” your ex creates more of the same low resistant energy within you.  And this low energy sabotages your efforts to be available to a new partner and move in a new direction because all of your emotional energy and attachment is still flowing back to an old ex.  Heal.  Forgive.  Move on.

Stop complaining about your life.  Life is just life.  You aren’t special with all your problems.  Single dad, single mom, single person, single life.  It doesn’t matter.  Complaining about how “hard” things are for you makes you unattractive, negative, and unappreciative of life in general.  Start to see things from a different perspective of learning, overcoming and thriving instead of just merely surviving.  Any low resistant energy, thoughts, words, feelings or stories about how “hard” or “awful” your life is or was creates more of the same low resistant energy within you.  And this low energy sabotages your efforts to be happy and available for an easier life with someone else.  Learn to appreciate the lessons of life and start to see the gift of the lessons instead of the pain of the struggles.

Stop complaining about time.  You are right where you are supposed to be.  There is no tally of time and love.  You have plenty of time to love, to find love, to be loved, and to practice love.  Love comes daily, not at a specific age.  People find lasting and magical love at all ages.  Relax and enjoy the present moment.  Stop rushing in a search for love. Let love find you in divine time and order.  Any low resistant energy, thoughts, words, feelings, or stories about how you have “little” or “no” time to date others, to meet others, to find and create a relationship, to start a new life or a new chapter with someone else creates the same low energy within you and keeps you closed and unavailable for your best relationships.

Stop complaining and maybe you’ll just start loving.



Posted on February 8th, by John Hyatt in Uncategorized.
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